Frequently Asked Questions
How many sessions will I need to take to see change occurring?
It is only normal to want to get results as quickly as possible. Yet do not forget how long it took for you to settle into these patterns you are experiencing now. Even if one session can lead to significant change, working on yourself takes time.
Having consistent and frequent sessions to get you moving to your goals is a key to change. I believe it is ideal seeing you for a minimum of 3 months at an interval of 1 session per week for 1 month and moving on to one session every two weeks. You’ll then evaluate afterwards how you feel and decide whether you need more sessions
Unstuck in one session. Is it a myth? (What if I have no results and it doesn’t work me?)
That’s only normal to think your current state would remain. Because for now it is very anchored. Remember how long it took for you to settle into these patterns you are experiencing now.
From the first coaching session, you should ready notice change, and after a few coaching sessions, you’ll be surprised to observe how your feelings will have evolved. Working on yourself is a process that can take time, but what it important is to keep your willingness to change.
I had a coach in the past, it was nice, but I never followed her instructions.
I’ll be straight. Change is something that comes from you. Not from the coach, nor from anyone else. As individuals, our evolution is our own responsibility. If you are about to do a bungee jumping, the monitor will never push you. He will first explain all the process of how the experience will go, how you should position, he’ll explain the safety rules, invite you to take place at the edge of the platform, and ultimately, he will tell you to have fun and to keep your eyes open. But the final decision to actually jump is yours. No one will push you off the platform. No one will force you to keep your eyes open may you decide to take the step.
By experience, the teacher knows you’ll get the full experience from seeing what’s happening. The same happens in coaching. If you decide to hire a coach to improve yourself, it is your responsibility to follow the coach instruction and to do the tasks with intention.
If you don’t, you’ll simply lose momentum, or delay change to fully happen. Taks are not given for pleasure. As a coach, when I give a task it is because I have been trained and I know the power of following it.
Sometimes however, you may find it difficult to perform a task, you may find it challenging. And it is totally fine. You will not get marked. What’s very interesting is to understand what was hard about it and adjust. This is how change happens.
I don’t need a coach because I know what to do. And I am busy enough.
I am not here to tell you what works for you. What works for you is what you believe in. If you are convinced the coach doesn’t know better, then maybe consider something else.
What is NLP?
Neuro-Linguistic Programming, or NLP, is the integration of three important concepts. It is the combination of our Neuro (the neurological system and the brain) processes, our Linguistic inputs of experience (the way we use language to make sense of our experience), and the Programming that occurs between the two. It is understanding the “language of our brain”. NLP is not therapy, it is a meta discipline that studied about learning how to use the brain more effectively or more efficiently, and how to communicate more effectively with ourselves and others. It provides methods for changing the way we think, feel, act, learn, in order to achieve the results that we want in our life.
The skills of NLP can be used in many areas of life and for instance are being used by various professionals, including teachers, sports coaches, personal/ life coaches, managers, motivational speakers, entrepreneurs, doctors, lawyers, politicians, and so on.
Being an accredited Coach with the International Association of Coaching Institute an NLP Master Practitioner and NLP Trainer, I am bringing my knowledge and experience in both Coaching and NLP. In wanting to achieve a particular goal, or outcome, the biggest obstacles often reside in our own minds, and therefore we can use many NLP tools in overcoming them.
Why should I work with Alexandra, specifically?
Coaching has become extremely fashionable, and it is undeniably true that there is a variety of professionals out there, a variety of qualifications, and a lot of marketing done. On top of this, you need to add the complexity of finding the person you will associate with, the person who fits your style, who you can easily relate with and feel comfortable sharing openly with.
There is a range of coaches you can work with. If you read my story, I do talk about it. I invite you to read my “About me” page to understand my perspective and my approach, and I am available for a free call, which I always have with all my clients, may you wish to get to know me beforehand, and that also allows me to see if we can match. Coaching is both ways J.
I also invite you to read the detailed testimonials clients have written to me, to get an idea about how they felt being coached by me.
Does online-coach work? Isn’t face to face better?
Undeniably, face to face always confers a great experience to connect.
A few years ago, this question must totally have been arguable. With the development of technologies, I believe it has never been as easy to set up a video call, being able to hear and see one another very clearly.
Online coaching is great to accommodate timetables and allow time flexibility to call, and most importantly it allows you to choose to work with a coach who wouldn’t be present physically in your country.
I have a very extensive experience of coaching online across the World, and I find it very easy to relate over the screen, in the comfort of your own place or office, or anywhere you might be at the time of the session.